Take advantage of the creative energies that are bubbling around us today. Use the magic of new beginnings to heal your ancient wounds and invigorate your evolution. Be inspired to shift directions and allow the fluidity of this water sign to give flexibility to your actions and your thoughts. Today is a day of the joy in creation. Today is a day of inspiration and renewal. Today is a day of limitless possibilities. Allow for everything.

I am going to be offering another workshop on Pendulums next Friday February 24th at SanKtuary Spa starting from 7:30pm to 9pm. The class will include practice time and a Q&A session plus there will be pendulums for sale. Bring your favorite pendulum or purchase one at class, a variety will be available. We will cover how to choose the best pendulum, cleaning, care and how to use this incredible tool to help you tap into your intuition. Join us!

]]> http://serafice.com/2012/02/pendulum-workshop-2/feed/ 1 http://serafice.com/2012/02/happy-day/ http://serafice.com/2012/02/happy-day/#comments Tue, 14 Feb 2012 12:49:02 +0000 Serafice http://serafice.com/?p=1065 ]]> Today is the first anniversary of my blog and I wanted to take a moment to thank you all for your love and support over this past year. I am so appreciative for all of your thoughtful comments and interest in what I do.

Writing here has become so cathartic and inspirational for me and I am so excited & grateful to have the opportunity to get my thoughts out. I am looking forward to another year of sharing and exploring and learning with you!

Big THANK YOU, hugs & kisses and an overflowing amount of love & gratitude to each and every one of you.

Happy Valentines Day!!

Another month has flown by! Join me on this Thursday February 16th at SanKtuary Spa starting at 7:30pm for our monthly reiki share. Come to build community, exchange ideas, connect with fellow practitioners, practice your craft and revel in the energy! All levels welcome! If you don’t know what reiki is, come find out!

As the retrograde period transits we are given space to re-assess and re-evaluate our lives, the agreements that we have made, the projects we have started and the commitments that we have agreed to. This is an excellent time for reviewing the progress of where we are, the status of our goals and make any necessary adjustments. Since Saturn turned retrograde in Libra the emphasis is in evaluating persona relationships and partnerships, this is the time to review the habits and patterns of your interpersonal exchanges.

Do you keep finding yourself dating the same type of person with the same disastrous results? Are you inexorably drawn into relationships that end up hurting you in the same way as the last one? Is there a pattern to your dating that leads to failure? Do you find yourself having the same argument with your current partner as you did with the last? Are you constantly let down by the people that are closest to you?

Saturn is prepared to support you in evaluating your actions, thought patterns and habits that contribute to limiting you in your commitments and relationships. Take a good look at how your choices, beliefs and actions create opportunity for misunderstandings, abuse and disharmony within your interactions with others. The energy of this transit is about making assessments, observing the patterns, determining our contribution and the deeply ingrained programing. This is a period of time for us to figure out how we orchestrate our own failures and defeats.

Be observant, be honest, be objective, take responsibility and ownership for yourself. There is no rush, don’t be hasty or jump to any conclusions too quickly as Saturn is making space for you to ease into it. Once you understand your impetus, once you can determine the WHY of your compulsions, once you can see the HOW of the construction of what doesn’t work then you can begin to make changes. You have to understand the pattern before you can shift it and Saturn is giving you the space and time to come to true understanding of yourself. Take advantage of what is being offered.

There is a lot of contradiction in this moon. We may have a hard time reconciling what we want and what we need. There can be a tendency to view a particular situation from two distinct angles bringing confusion and doubt. Do we really know what we want? Are we simply rationalizing in an attempt to live up to some ideal? Are we clear about how we feel? Are you certain of your true motivations or is your judgment being clouded in some way? Are your heart and mind of differing opinions?

You emotions may be suspect at this time and difficult to understand. The full moon is a very emotional time and you may find yourself confused about how you feel. Don’t be to quick to judge any particular situation, your emotional responses are being influenced by Leo’s need to release and roar. Emotional venting and release is healthy but keep in mind that this is not a rational influence. Don’t make any hasty decisions especially regarding highly emotional topics. This influence can lead to outbursts and misunderstandings if you are not paying attention. Be gentle with each other.

The book is a great guide for how to be more authentically YOU and I think much of it can be summed up in the following passage:

Wherever you go around the world, you will hear all kinds of opinions and stories from other people. You will find great storytellers wanting to tell you what you should do with your life: “You should do this, you should do that, you should do whatever.” Don’t believe them. Be skeptical but learn to listen and then make your choices. Be responsible for every choice you make in your life. This is your life; it’s nobody else’s life, and you will find that it’s nobody else’s business what you do with your life.

Be you and be proud of who you are. Other people may have great advice for helping you accomplish your goals but ultimately you have to do what feels right for you. No one else lives your life. Just you. Pay attention to what people are telling you but take it all with a grain of salt. This includes the stories that we tell our selves. Our egos are more then happy to give an opinion or make an assessment that feeds the negative rather then empowering our true selves.

Be observant of your emotions, feelings and thoughts. But remember that some of these are stories that our ego is telling us to fulfill some prearranged agreement that is not serving us. Rather then listening to the voices that tend to ramble on in our heads, or come from those around us, listen to your heart. Your heart won’t speak in words, it speaks in emotions. Hold the thought, person, event in your heart and pay attention to how it makes you feel. This is how you know the truth without the ego twisting things out of perspective. This is how you connect with your true desires. This is how you can make decisions that empower you to be a truly happy you.

Always doing your best eliminates the ability for anyone (especially that judgmental voice in your head) to make you feel badly about yourself, your actions and your life. All that is important is that you put your full energy and intent into being your best at all times. Not over doing it and hurting your self, not giving a half hearted attempt then feeling badly. You wont always be successful, some days will be easier then others. You just need to take each day as it comes and remember that what you were capable of yesterday may not be what you are capable of today. This is how you can eliminate doubt, guilt and frustration.

The fourth agreement is the most important agreement of all. Allowing for fluctuations in energy, emotions and stamina. Your best is not perfection, it is simply the best you can manage at that time. Understanding that you won’t be impeccable with your words every day.  You may take something personally every once in a while. You may not be successful in not making assumptions in all instances. And this is okay. Just keep trying. Being the best you that you can be. Every day.

There are many aspects to not making assumptions. This means don’t judge a book by it’s cover. Always ask questions. Try not to take it for granted that someone else sees the world in the same way that you do. Don’t let your fantasy of what is happening supercede reality. Beauty is not the only thing that is in the eye of the beholder, understand that there are many concepts that shift and vary depending on the person.

The hardest part of this Agreement is that it required confidence to ask the questions necessary to alleviate the chance of assumption. Too often we lack the strength to speak up and say “I’m not understanding” because we think that it puts us in a position of weakness to admit we have a question. Many people have an agreement that someone that asks a lot of questions is not very smart. This is one agreement we all need to break. The only way for clear, conscious HEALTHY communication is to ask questions.

There is a passage in the third agreement chapter that I really like: “Also find your voice to ask for what you want. Everybody has the right to tell you no or yes, but you always have the right to ask. Likewise, everybody has the right to ask you, and you have the right to say yes or no.“

I think a lot of people find hearing NO difficult and so they avoid asking questions. But this is because they are taking it personally. And because often they are not being clear about what it is that they want. If we take the time to be precise in our communications and don’t take offense to whatever the answer may be, then making sure we are not making assumptions becomes second nature. See how beautifully the agreements speak to each other?

Naturally, this has been closely followed by the nature of the second agreement which is “Don’t take anything personally”. We too often base our feelings of self worth on how other people perceive us and interact with us. It is vitally important to understand that the actions of other people are based solely on them and have NOTHING to do with you. Sure it feels personal when someone doesn’t appreciate what you do for a living or reciprocate your feelings or like the way you present yourself to the world or think it’s appropriate to physically attack you. But that is not a reflection of you or how you are or what you have said or how you have reacted in a particular circumstance. It is all about the other person and their perception of who you are.

You are fabulous because you are you. You love your job and it makes you happy. You deserve the best and can have it with patience. You feel great wearing that look and it builds your confidence. You feel drawn to that color and it lifts your spirits. You are beautiful and deserve to feel good about yourself. That is all that matters. When other people share an opinion that differs from yours don’t take it personally. We are all unique individuals with differing ideals and desires and this is one of the things that makes the world such a beautiful place.

We can’t spend our lives trying to live up to other peoples expectations of us. There are billions of people in this world and you personally know hundreds of them, how realistic is it to think that they are all going to agree on something? Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to appreciate your personal style. Not everyone is going to think you make the best choices. And you can’t live your life accommodating other peoples perception of you. Your life is not a democracy, you are the only one that gets to decide who you are, where you are going and how you will get there.