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It has NOTHING to do with you

The way that people treat you, the way they speak to, what they think of you and the way they interact with you; has NOTHING to do with you. When someone hurts you, when they say something mean, when they treat you poorly; it has NOTHING  to do with you. This is the hardest lesson that I work with people on.

So many want to get caught up in pointing to someone else’s behavior and lamenting “they think this about me” or “so and so insulted me” and the fact of the matter is, it has NOTHING to do with you. What other people think of you has everything to do with their own perceptions and experiences and NOTHING to do with you.

Stop taking the things that other people do and say so personally. The way they behave towards you has everything to do with what is going on in their own head and NOTHING to do with you. We all interact with our environment and others based on the filter of our own lives and so we cannot take how others perceive us personally. Because it has NOTHING to do with us!

2 Responses to “It has NOTHING to do with you”

  1. 1 Ele says:

    I’ve begun saying…your behavior says more about you than it does about me. I am a kind, caring person yet in my work and in my life recently it has been unpleasant each and every day. After many days like this it does wear on you. But if you look deeply inside you will see that you will be who you know that you are no matter what others say. At the end of the day, I still have to sleep with my myself… and that self is content.

  2. 2 Angel says:


    My favorite saying is “what you think about me is your business” and your post is a great testament to that!

    I was guided to you and this message this morning by spirit. Thank you for this message and impact on the world.